Are you a natural-born worrier?
Do you fret late at night about what COULD happen IF something doesn't work out the way you planned it? Learn how to eliminate worry and restore a sense of peace and balance in your life.
Are you a worrier? I know I am. I am not afraid to admit that. Over the past few years, however, I have become less of a worrier.
It started with quite a simple conversation with one of my nephews, who at the time was 4 or 5.
I was tucking him into bed one night and I could tell something was really bothering him. I asked him what was up.
“What's worrying you Austin? Is everything ok?”, I asked.
He stared at me with his beautiful blue eyes and replied: “I am worried that if I fall asleep, I will have a bad dream.”
A wave of emotion filled me. I know what that feeling is like. I know we all do.
Children are blessed and cursed. They are still “question marks”, with so much insight and imagination –but much of this is because their neural pathways are not yet connected or built. It's like the mainframe computer still formatting its disk. So there are many “misfires” along the way and this often manifests itself in the form of nightmares.
As adults, we are better able to rationalize the inevitability of sleep and dreaming. We understand that we have relatively little control over what we dream and so we resolve to sleep anyway.
We no longer worry about “what if”, but “what is.”
And so it plays out that in life, we should focus more on what IS rather than what IF.
Instead of saying:
“What IF I don't get that raise?”
“What IF my business fails”
“What IF I don't find that ‘someone' ”
What IS, is that I have a job.
What IS, is that I am taking action every day on my business to make it succeed
What IS, is that I am being the best person possible and presenting myself to the Universe for mutual attraction in my favor
IF statements are not finite.
They can either be or not be. Whereas IS statements are absolute. They are already achieved.
By focusing on what you have achieved rather than what is yet to be gained, you will discover a hidden abundance, and eliminate worry in the process.
Let's work on ending the feedback loop of worrying by replacing “What If” statements with “What Is” statements. Anytime you start a question in your mind or in a conversation with “What If”, write down 2 “What IS” statements to counter. The goal is to eliminate IF statements and replace them with IS statements!